The Collaborative Mindset

FAQs, stories, thoughts and articles on divorce from the collaborative perspective.

Divorce on a Dime

Divorce has become increasingly unaffordable. Many people file for divorce on their own for this very reason.  “Do-it-yourself divorce” is one way to save money and a great way to wind up feeling confused and stressed out.  When I started Clela… Read More
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Mediation and Care for Elderly Parents

By 2030 there will be more Americans over the age of 65 than under the age of 16. As we age an increasing number of care concerns arise, such as the ability to live independently. While the number of elderly people facing care concerns is skyrocketin… Read More
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National Mental Illness Awareness Week and Divorce

Friends, this is National Mental Illness Awareness Week. The National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI) is focusing on a handful of mental illnesses during this week, including suicide and depression. Divorce is linked to both depression and suicid… Read More
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Proposed Child Custody Law Exposes Flaws of Divorce Court

Many of you may have heard about a proposed bill in Michigan to effectively require judges to award both parents shared decision-making power over their children and give both parents nearly equal time with the children. Those who oppose this bill of… Read More
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Improving The Divorce Process By Involving Our Local Community

Years ago courts in our country were far different than they are today.  The predominant characteristic of nineteenth-century courts across the United States was localism.  By “localism” I mean that courts worked on the basis of general… Read More
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The Age of Divorce

It seems like nowadays all I hear about is how the country is heading in the wrong direction. Wendell Berry, a writer, philosopher, farmer and father of the locally grown food movement, has been saying this far before it became fashionable.  Since t… Read More
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A Mindful Divorce

The concept of “mindfulness” –   the practice of focusing your attention on the present moment and to be able to quiet your mind- is everywhere nowadays. Research in contemplative neuroscience suggests that practicing mindfulness has a p… Read More
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Co-Parenting Begins With Your Divorce.

Co-parenting occurs when two divorced parents are able to work cooperatively and collaboratively as parents after a divorce. It is the most important gift that divorcing parents can provide their children.  Nonetheless, co-parenting is often the exc… Read More
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Divorce: The Forgotten Injury

Divorce has been shown to have a devastating effect on the health of people, especially children.  Why is this? And what can we do to improve the health and well-being of people going through divorce?        Divorce has been shown to have a de… Read More
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Divorce and Decision Making

I don’t claim that mediation and collaborative practice is for everyone, but I do maintain that these divorce methods are a possibility for nearly all divorcing couples where substance abuse and domestic violence are not issues.  Yet, I also reali… Read More
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One of the primary missions of Cleland Collaborative Solutions is to help you resolve your divorce in Michigan without going to court, through mediation and collaborative practice. Learn more about the benefits of these approaches.
Although Cleland Collaborative Solutions sees divorce litigation as a last resort, it may be unavoidable. In these cases, our work centers on protecting your interests while preventing costly, unnecessary battles. Learn about how we help.

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