The Collaborative Mindset

FAQs, stories, thoughts and articles on divorce from the collaborative perspective.

Divorce When You Are Over 50 - Planning for Financial Security

Divorce by nature causes financial problems.  Divorce for people over 50 – known as “gray divorce” – can be a full blown financial crisis.  On average, the gray divorced will end up having only 1/5 of the assets of gray married couples.…
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Getting Honest and Good Advice About Divorce - For Free!

I get two types of questions about my services. First, I am often asked by people if I handle contentious divorces. Of course I do.  I am an attorney who represents people in court all the time.  I just don’t encourage people to take a combative…
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The Age of Divorce

It seems like nowadays all I hear about is how the country is heading in the wrong direction. Wendell Berry, a writer, philosopher, farmer and father of the locally grown food movement, has been saying this far before it became fashionable.  Since t…
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Divorce and the Science on Adverse Childhood Experiences

Since the divorce rate peaked in the 1980s, we have learned a great deal about how divorce affects children, and what it is about divorce that negatively affects them.  We know today that children of divorce are at an increased risk of serious and l…
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Time, Money and Closure

Every marriage and family is different, but in my experience, people who are involved in divorce should have three core concerns: time, money and closure.  Which divorce process is best suited to handle these concerns? It isn’t divorce court. Divo…
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Divorce Radio

The other day I heard a radio commercial that targets male clients for divorce cases. The voice sternly warned men that during divorce, the unfair court system jeopardizes everything… including life with their children.   This message is meant…
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Divorce & Decision Making in the New Year

It is a well-known fact that many divorces are initiated at the beginning of the New Year.  In fact, divorce attorneys have given the month of January the dreary name “Divorce Month.” The timing makes sense. Few couples will want to initiate a d…
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Divorce on a Dime

Divorce has become increasingly unaffordable. Many people file for divorce on their own for this very reason.  “Do-it-yourself divorce” is one way to save money and a great way to wind up feeling confused and stressed out.  When I started Clela…
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Mediation and Care for Elderly Parents

By 2030 there will be more Americans over the age of 65 than under the age of 16. As we age an increasing number of care concerns arise, such as the ability to live independently. While the number of elderly people facing care concerns is skyrocketin…
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National Mental Illness Awareness Week and Divorce

Friends, this is National Mental Illness Awareness Week. The National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI) is focusing on a handful of mental illnesses during this week, including suicide and depression. Divorce is linked to both depression and suicid…
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